Wednesday, November 30, 2016

November 27, 2016: Thanksgiving

Sunrise in Copenhagen


Dad in front of the Holbaek Fjord

In front of the art museum in Holbaek

Ceilings in Frederiksberg Slot


Thanksgiving dinner

Kære Familie,                                                                                                     Sunday, November 27, 2016

For the Grandchildren:
Last Sunday, grandma and I spoke in Sacrament meeting in a ward in a city named Slagelse.   It is about an hour’s drive west of Copenhagen and is near the coastline.  We still had to speak in English and some members translated our talks into Danish for the few older people who do not speak English.  Most of the members understood the talks in both languages!  Sometimes people in the audience would help the translator with a Danish word when they could not think of it.  They would just shout it out. We both bore very short testimonies in Danish as part of our talks.  I think maybe some wanted those translated as well because our Danish is so bad, but most members seemed to understand. 

After church, we had an experience that I think you will like.  It was cold and rainy outside and the wind was blowing quite hard.  We had to meet 4 sister missionaries at their apartment but we have our little car so it was easy for us to drive 10 minutes to their apartment.  The sister missionaries were on bikes however.  It took them much longer than us to get there and I felt so bad for them on their bikes, in dresses, with the rain coming down.  We tried waiting outside for a little while for them, but it was too cold so we got back in the car and turned the heater on.  When they arrived, they had hoods and gloves on but we could tell how cold they were.  Their cheeks were all pink.  The neat thing is that they were so happy!  They said that the cold and rain was just part of the experience and they are happy to be serving Heavenly Father as missionaries.  I was so proud of them.  I would like to give them our car for a day or two, but I think we are too old to ride bikes all day.  They try so hard to be obedient and obey all the rules and they work very hard every day.  Our mission president thinks that we have one of the most obedient missions in the whole church.  He is always talking about how faithful his missionaries are and how well prepared they are to work hard. We are so happy to be here in Denmark as part of this mission.  We try to work hard every day as well and many times we don’t get home until late at night because we are working with the young adults.  

These 4 sister missionaries are all in one apartment.  They are all in the same bedroom that has two bunkbeds.  They don’t have very much space and very little privacy.  The apartment only has one very small bathroom, so they have to take turns to take showers and brush their teeth.  You know that girls are slower than boys to shower because they have to fix their hair every morning.  I think this must be hard on them but they are always happy. 

Another apartment in Lynby had problems with the water pipes into the apartment building.  The city shut the water off for 2 weeks and they put 2 outhouses outside in the courtyard.  These sisters live on the 3rd floor and there were many apartments that had to share these 2 outhouses.  I think there must have been lines at times waiting for their turn and it was cold outside.  Serving missions can be hard, but it is a lot of fun most of the time as we teach about the Gospel. 

Now my letter.
I almost made myself sick over last weekend with my Danish homework assignment.  We were supposed to be prepared to talk Monday morning about our eating habits in front of the class for 1-2 minutes.  It was a pretty easy assignment and should have been no big deal, but for some reason I was really uptight about it.  I had to write out my little speech and tried to memorize it because my memory just doesn’t retain what it used to. Of course, everything turned out fine.  We ended up just speaking 1 on 1 with the person sitting next to us (mom and I usually pair with someone else) and only 1 volunteer presented to the entire class.  I need to learn to tone it down in my worry and preparation.  We have been learning nouns and we have yellow sticky notes all over the apartment with the names of different things. 

This has been another week for some apartment inspections and repairs.  Monday we helped the Rodøvre sisters and Søborg sisters. Tuesday, we started the day by driving to Birkarød and picking up Elders Thompkins and Thurman, and then driving to Helsingør, with the purpose of starting to close the apartment.  Wednesday, we had an apartment inspection in Amager at 10:00 and then one in Roskilde at 12:30.  Amager is next door to us but Roskilde is a 35-minute drive to the west. We then drove 30 minutes further west to drop off some personal items to Elder Evans in Holbaek. We then toured a bit on the way home, taking a longer country route back to Roskilde, and then on home.  The countryside in Denmark, as we have commented I think, is beautiful farmland.  Even though it is winter here now, it is still green with a winter crop that they put in. We also see rolling hills, seacoasts, lots of old cathedral steeple, quaint small villages, stands of trees, etc. It makes for pleasant drives and we very much enjoy these diversions from city life that come with our apartment inspections.   

For FHE, two of the YSA with some dance backgrounds gave some dance instruction.  There were about 20 people who participated.  We danced a bit ourselves.  They worked on a choregraphed sort of line dance but with a partner.  It was fun.  One of the YSA prepared the refreshments this time and it was nice to have a break from that as well. 

We see two possible romances developing with 4 of our YSA kids.  3 of them are returned missionaries and the 4th is the YM who was baptized in the Spring of this year.  I think he can go to the temple in February.  It is sort of fun to see them pair off and holding hands, putting arms around each other, etc.  It is all pretty low key but I wonder if there is gossip or discussion by the others.  We don’t really hear about it and it all seems to be accepted.  One of the young ladies was going out with our Committee Chairman when we arrived.  We have talked about Sarah and Jonathan.  She took it pretty hard when they broke up and did not attend as regularly for a while.  Now she is back all of the time with her new best friend.  I am happy for her and hope this works out for them.  It must be a bit hard with her strong family background and her missionary background to be seriously dating with a new member.  He is very impressive however and is her equal in many ways.  He does a lot a family research and then is in the temple a couple times a month doing baptisms for family members.  I was able to baptize him Friday night for several of his family.  There is a strange side to this as well … these are 4 of our favorites and I would hate for them to not be with us in our YSA activities. We would miss them!

David Borcuti (the Romanian) came again to Institute and I sat in on a lesson on Tithing and the Word of Wisdom with him at 5:00.  He still is committed for baptism on Dec 3rd, but it seems to me to be too quick for him.  He certainly wants to be more righteous in his life, is searching for something and wants to be baptized because he realizes it will bring him closer to God. He also thinks the BofM is a book of scripture with good things in it, but when questioned a bit deeper, he has not prayed about it or had a spiritual witness. I think it is more intellectual with him.  Later, he also asked the missionaries if he could pay 5% tithing to his current church and 5% to ours.  He also wants to attend both churches but he feels a stronger connection to his present church because it is in English and a lot of Romanians attend there.  He is lacking an understanding that there is only one true church on the earth with all the priesthood keys.  Perhaps he can still get there by the 3rd, but in his case I don’t see the harm in slowing it down a bit.   

Both sister missionaries teaching him are fairly new – a new trainer who came out a week after we did and a new missionary.  I thought their teaching was a little too superficial and quick on each topic.  I am used to the old flipchart memorized discussions however and I need to brush up on what PMG goes into on the commandments.  I tried to put myself into the place of someone hearing this for the first time, and I am not sure I would have gotten what they were committing me to do. Hannah Andersen, another YSA, was sitting in on the discussion as well, and when we talked about the WofW and David expressed concerns about his one real issue which is tea, she was quick to say that herbal tea is ok and she has a cup every day. That lessened some of his anxiety about it. Though technically correct I think, it always makes me nervous when members try to carve out exceptions for their favorite beverage.  They also never opened the scriptures to read Section 89 and to me that is pretty important to put it all in context.  It was also interesting on tithing.  They had him read Malachi 3.  He uses his own Bible which must be a New English translations or something, the wording was interesting and it seemed a little less forceful on the “you have robbed me” phrases. They also read the King James version as well. He asked the question whether he could pay tithing with his time donated to the church as he has more time than money and he wanted to know where in the BofM it says that tithing has to be paid in money.  They glossed over these questions and moved on which sort of disappointed me.  I unfortunately, wasn’t prepared to throw in some scriptures but I did have an opportunity to bear testimony to tithing and fast offerings and I was grateful to have that experience.    

Our temple workers were very scarce on Friday.  We had the presidency and the coordinator plus 2 missionaries in prayer meeting.  2 other male workers came a bit later.  The sisters had similar numbers.  With those numbers, we are very limited in what we can do beyond the endowment sessions.  We must choose between Initiatory and sealings. I don't think we did any Initiatories this time.  We also had a family come for the baptistry at 6:30 so I was one of the workers to staff that.  I did the baptizing in the font and baptized a German brother and also Rasmus Svestrop, our YSA, who brought his family names.  I also did some of the confirmations.  Our 3 endowments sessions had about 5 or 6 on each one, some of which were temple workers.  It seems like the focus on the temple declines through the rest of the year.  Elder Larsen said that last year was like this.  I am surprised that the temple workers just do not show up and it seems like the coordinator does not know they are not coming.  The 3 couples here as temple missionaries (Larsens, Mordews, and Andersens) are the backbone of the temple workers at this time of the year.  2 of them were missing today however, so that compounded our problem.  

Mom woke up Saturday with the idea of taking a tour of the Frederiksberg Slot, which is only open to the public on the last Saturday of the month.  We called and Jensen's agreed to go with us.  We left at 10:15 to walk there.  The temperature was about 44 degrees and it felt cold but not bad except when the wind was blowing on us.  The walk was about 35 minutes and the slot is right by our old apartment where the Jensens now live.  

The 90-minute tour was very good and was conducted by one of the military students.  We had a tour in English for 11 of us.  He shared a lot of little stories about the history of the slot and the king's family who lived there.  It was built around the 1700's. The slot is built on a hill and may be the highest point in the city.  We therefore had an excellent view of the city from the rooftop veranda.  On a clear day one can see to Sweden on the East and Roskilde's Dom Kirke on the West.  Yesterday was gray and overcast and we could not see beyond Copenhagen.   

Denmark's army has about 7,000 soldiers.  Our guide has done 3 tours of duty in Afghanistan.  The Navy and Air Force each have around 3,500 members.  Under the NATO pact, each country is supposed to spend 2% of their gross national product on military spending.  For the past few years, as Obama has cut our military spending, other countries in NATO have apparently done the same.  He said that their spending on the military is now only about 1.17% and with Trump winning in the US, he thinks they will need to increase it back towards the 2%.  He viewed that as a good thing because he is career military and has felt the pain of budget cuts and the lack of numbers for the commitments the country has made, hence his 3 tours to Afghanistan. 

The slot was quite nice, though getting run down in some areas.  It has been used as the training center for military officers for the past few decades.  The best part were the stucco ceilings and ceiling paintings.  It makes for a very glamorous school. They were very beautiful and equal to any others we have seen in Denmark. 

Love, Dad


Kære Familie,                                                                                                                                                                              November 27, 2016
It sounds like you all had a very nice break for Thanksgiving (even though I know how much work went into preparing the food.)  We missed you but I feel so blessed that I have such a wonderful family and I could just imagine the good times you shared—whether you were with family or friends.  Truly it is what I want most for my family—to find happiness with others—to make memories, to relax a little and recharge your batteries.  I hope all that happened.  There is a word for that in Denmark—hyggeligt.  It is an adjective that doesn’t translate exactly but it is a feeling of coziness, happiness, good times.  In RS today we talked a little bit about the Christmas Initiative—“Light the World.”  One of the sisters said that light is very important in Denmark because there are more hours of darkness during the winters than daylight.  They have to create light and they do that with candles.  Homes are full of candles; stores have many on display for purchase.  The candlelight creates hyggeligt—a warm cozy atmosphere.  Just like light is important in a dark winter, the Light of Christ is so needed in a dark world.  When we feel His Light and when we share His Light, it is hyggeligt.  Hyggeligt is what you experienced on Thanksgiving. 

I have thought a lot about Jared’s friend this week.  My heart breaks as he told of his downward spiral away from faith. The sad thing is that I think Jared’s friend has not only lost faith in God, but he has lost faith in love; he has lost faith in life.   I am reminded that even the elect will be deceived.[1]  So none of us is safe.  Satan is always there ready to lead us with a flaxen cord until he can bind us up with his strong cords forever.[2]  As we were reading in 2 Nephi 4 today, I recognized that even Nephi realized that he was susceptible to sin and temptation.  He was sorrowful because of the flesh and his soul grieved because of his iniquities.[3]   But he remembered the blessings he had received, the love God showed him, the knowledge he had received, the visions he had seen.  And he asked “Why should I yield to sin, because of my flesh?  Yea, why should I give way to temptations, that the evil one have place in my heart to destroy my peace and afflict my soul? ..... Awake, my soul!  No longer droop in sin.  Rejoice, O my heart, and give place no more for the enemy of my soul…. O Lord…Wilt thou make me that I may shake at the appearance of sin?[4]  He recognizes that he has trusted in God and will trust in him forever.  “I will not put my trust in the arm of flesh; for I know that cursed is he that putteth his trust in the arm of flesh.”[5] Nephi is also the prophet who tells us that we must always press forward, feasting on the word of Christ, and endure to the end.[6]   These things are so important if we are to safeguard our testimonies.   

Elder Ballard tells a story about one of his missionaries who came to him.  I really liked the message.
“President,” he said, “I think I’m losing my testimony.”
I couldn’t believe it. I asked him how that could be possible.
“For the first time, I have read some anti-Mormon literature,” he said. “I have some questions, and nobody will answer them for me. I am confused, and I think I am losing my testimony.”
I asked him what his questions were, and he told me. They were the standard anti-Church issues, but I wanted a little time to gather materials so I could provide meaningful answers. So we set up an appointment 10 days later, at which time I told him I would answer every one of his questions. As he started to leave, I stopped him.
“Elder, you’ve asked me several questions here today,” I said. “Now I have one for you.”
“Yes, President?”
“How long has it been since you read from the Book of Mormon?” I asked.
His eyes dropped. He looked at the floor for a while. Then he looked at me. “It’s been a long time, President,” he confessed.
“All right,” I said. “You have given me my assignment. It’s only fair that I give you yours. I want you to promise me that you will read in the Book of Mormon for at least one hour every day between now and our next appointment.” He agreed that he would do that.
Ten days later he returned to my office, and I was ready. I pulled out my papers to start answering his questions, but he stopped me.
“President,” he said, “that isn’t going to be necessary.” Then he explained: “I know that the Book of Mormon is true. I know Joseph Smith is a prophet of God.”
“Well, that’s great,” I said. “But you’re going to get answers to your questions anyway. I worked a long time on this, so you just sit there and listen.”
And so I answered all his questions and then asked, “Elder, what have you learned from this?”
And he said, “Give the Lord equal time.”
May we engrave that thought on our minds and carry it with us as we walk through this process of mortality. Let us give the Lord equal time. Let us give Him His due share of our thoughts, our time, our talents, and our attention. I know that we are all very busy. There are many demands for our attention, and our time is limited by a wide variety of constraints. But as we learn to manage our time, let us be sure that we give the Lord His portion.[7]

Many of our youth were away this weekend at a YSA conference in Stockholm.  It is a short conference—weekend only—and much smaller than Festinord.  It is called Soul Night.  There will probably be about 350 YSA’s, mostly from Nordic countries.  As a result, we thought we would have a sparse SS class today—but it turned out to be a good-sized class.  One young man stayed home because he was invited to participate in a baby blessing today.  This is a young man who joined the church last March.  We have been amazed at his progress.  He comes to church every week; he blesses and passes the sacrament (we don’t have enough YM to do it); he received the Melchizedek Priesthood at Stake Conference a few weeks ago; he gave a Priesthood blessing a few days later to one of his friends; and today he participated in a baby blessing.  He didn’t know he would be invited to be in the circle and when the father motioned for him to join, I could tell that he really wasn’t sure what to do.  But he did great—just follow the other brethren.  Even though a baby blessing may seem like a little thing, for this young man it is just one more step, one more experience in the gospel.  I could really see how much it meant to him—I could feel it.  For me, it is the miracle of the gospel—it truly changes lives and brings joy. 

We had our primary program today.  There was no translation so we were on our own.[8]  Several of the older children gave talks.  Although they speak very well, their talks were simple and they read them so it was slower.  We could understand a lot of it.  So we just need to practice speaking with children!  There were only about 15 children, but they sang well and it was fun to hear the Danish version of the songs I know so well.  I often play the piano in primary so I also get to hear the songs then.

We had a long day on Tuesday.  I threw dinner in the crock-pot because I knew there would not be time to make anything later.  We spent the morning cleaning out a missionary apartment and the afternoon at Zone Training.  I was surprised that the mission president and his wife were not there because they spoke at the last one.  But now I understand that it was the exception to have them there.  The AP’s and Zone Leaders do all the training.  They introduced the Christmas Initiative which the missionaries will use extensively in their teaching during the coming weeks.  There was one thing missing at the conference—food.  It would seem natural that we would have a dinner after the training (it got over at 5 p.m.), but I knew that nothing had been planned.  Still I thought that we would at least have snacks during the break—Sister O’Bryant always makes cookies for the break during Zone Conference.  But there was nothing during the break.  I know I was hungry, so I could just imagine what the missionaries were feeling.  I felt bad and wish I had realized what was happening before.  We were the only adults at the training.  One of the missionaries commented to us before the training that they were hoping to have a Thanksgiving Dinner after the training—that seemed logical.  Anyway, Dad and I left during the break and ran to the grocery store and picked up cookies and clementines.  When we got back, the missionaries were already back to the training, so they didn’t eat our treats until after it ended.  There are four zones in our mission.  When we have zone conference, we include 2 zones in each conference.  Zone Training is done by zones, so there are 4 trainings across the mission.  Perhaps that is why they don’t do food—there are not enough missionaries.  There were only 7 companionships plus the AP’s and us—18 altogether. 

We ran home after the training, ate dinner, and then I left again to go back to the same place we had Zone Training.  It was our RS Christmas activity.  Dad didn’t want to sit and wait for me, so that’s why I took him home.  The two wards that meet in our building were combined for this activity.  They had many things planned, including traditional Danish treats—æbleskiver (Danish pancakes), risalamande, (rice almond-flavored pudding with cherry sauce), pebernødder and other Danish cookies.  They use a lot of cardamom over here as a flavoring in their desserts.  We also had wassail (they call it gløgg).   Other activities were making a Christmas jar to give away (filled with a spice-mix to add to apple cider), stringing cranberries for a Christmas ornament, and making a Christmas centerpiece—with candles, pine boughs and ribbon.  Then we played a White Elephant present game.  Everyone was supposed to bring a gift—simple, inexpensive gifts.  There were lots of gifts, so either people brought more than one, or the RS presidencies bought some.  The gifts were in the center of the table.  There were 6-8 cups with one die in them.  We passed the cups around, shaking the die.  When you rolled a 6, you got to pick a gift, but not open it.   We kept going until all the gifts had been taken.  Some people had 3 or 4 gifts.  The next round, we did it again, only if you rolled a 6 you took a present from someone else.  This round was timed, so after 5 minutes or so, the game ended and we got to open our gifts.  It was fun.  I got two gifts but gave them away to the two sister missionaries who had to leave early to teach a discussion.  They taught the lesson at the church, so I was able find them when it was over.  I enjoyed being with the sisters in our ward.  When I visit with people one-on-one, we talk in English.  Everything else is in Danish so I am at a loss, but I still enjoyed the evening.  Everyone is so nice.  There is something about ‘belonging,’ about unity—I guess it is called sisterhood.  

We went to an art museum for our Danish class on Thursday.  We have learned Danish colors and adjectives in preparation for an assignment to describe a picture.  We worked in groups and could choose any painting to write about.  We also had to tell another group about our painting so we had to speak Danish as well as write it.  It was a nice break from classwork.  The art museum is quite nice and we enjoyed visiting a section of Danish and other Nordic painters, as well as a European art section—with paintings from 1300 to 1900’s.  We only spent about an hour in the museum with our class—and the whole time we were concentrating on Danish, so we didn’t get to see much of the museum.  But Dad and I elected to stay a little longer after the others left to see something besides the two paintings we studied.  One of our other classmates joined us.  It was obvious that our classmate had little knowledge of Bible stories, as we had to explain some of the religious paintings to her.  She is from India.  There was one very large and very dramatic painting of Solomon and the two women who came to him, each claiming the live baby was her own.  The guard was holding the baby upside down and about to cut it in half.  Our friend thought that was just horrible until we explained the story and told her it had a happy ending.  

Hope you all have a great week.  We love hearing about everything you are doing. 
Kærlig hilsen,
Mom



[1] Joseph Smith-Matthew 1:9, 22
[2] 2 Nephi 26:22
[3] 2 Nephi 4:17
[4] 2 Nephi 4:27-31 I like the descriptive words Nephi uses, i.e. ‘that the evil one have place in my heart to destroy my peace.’  That is what Satan does—he destroys peace.  Also ‘droop in sin’ suggests sadness, unhappiness, which is what sin brings into our lives.
[5] 2 Nephi 4:34
[6] 2 Nephi 31:20
[7]  “When Shall These Things Be?” Ensign, Dec. 1996, 60.  The whole talk is great.
[8] The one who organizes translation said that they really didn’t think it was worth it because half the time they couldn’t understand the children in order to translate for us.?!?!?

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